April 14, 2017 at 1:52 pm my husband Robert left this earth and went to
heaven.
About 3 months ago after a bone marrow test, my husband was diagnosed with MDS: Myelodysplastic syndromes (MDS) are conditions that can occur when the blood-forming cells in the bone marrow are damaged. This damage leads to low numbers of one or more type of blood cells. MDS is considered a type of cancer.
Our Doctor told him that his time was short and to prepare to leave this earth. For a period of time he was able to eat and take care of himself, but recently he experienced weakness and loss of appetite. When he could hardly walk, we asked the Doctor to set up Hospice.
We thought we could do care here at home with Hospice nurses once a week, until early this week I found him on the floor and he was unable to get up. His arms and legs were just too weak.
I called our Son-in-law Dennis and he came right over and helped him get into a chair. Hospice had not made the contact and we were considering a care home as I could not lift him.
This was happening a bit too fast.
Two days went by and then Friday morning (yesterday)
I found him on the floor with a bloody head wound. He was moaning, so I knew he was alive. I called 911 and soon they arrived. The 911 ambulance took my husband to Enloe
hospital, and on the way they lost his pulse, and revived him.
He also seemed to have a stroke and when they arrived at
the hospital, they put him on a ventilator, an IV and monitors. When I got
there, they spoke to me in an office, until a doctor came in telling me all
this and I remarked, "Of course they did not have our records, but we both
have a 'Do not resuscitate' filed with Kaiser."
The Doctor asked me if
he should unhook my husband? I replied,
"That would be his wish." The Doctor said, "that would be mine
too if I were in this situation." He said, we will keep him comfortable,
but I must tell you that he is leaving us quickly.
They allowed me in the room with him, and I took his
hand, leaned over and told him, “Bobby, I am here, and I love you very
much.” His mouth moved but his eyes did
not open. I was in tears as I told him that it was okay to go.
I continued to hold his hand until a male nurse came
in and took his pulse and said, "He is no longer with us."
By then Becky and Dennis had arrived and they sat with
me until a Sherriff assistant to the coroner arrived. He gave us much
information and was very kind. He took pictures that will be attached to his
report for the coroner. We were asked where we wanted his body sent and we
decided on Sheer Memorial in Oroville.
Dennis left to take care of some burning in my yard,
and Becky stayed with me until the Mortuary attendant arrived. By then it was
almost 5:00pm. Becky drove me home and my wish is to be alone for awhile and
meditate. Monday we will make further
decisions.
Hospice was never set in place, and the Lord knew this
was the best way for my husband to leave this earth. I know he is with the Lord and rejoicing to
be able to see Jesus face to face. I
have had several months of preparation for this, but in many ways today does
not seem real. However, I know that I am
not alone - - besides the Lord and his angels surrounding me, I have my
wonderful family and friends who loved my husband dearly and also love me.
It had been a long day, but
God is with me.
