Living Free by Dennis and Dr Jen Clark
This is an important book, for your own personal emotional healing and also as a “How to” manual to teach and minister to others.
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Presented here are the simple Keys, although much is missing if you haven’t studied the entire book for yourself.
1. FIRST This is where we invite the Lord to bring to mind some circumstance or relationship where there is a need of healing. Focus on the first person or situation that comes to mind. You may see a picture in your mind’s eye or a short “movie clip” of a moment in the present or past.
Don’t dismiss or overlook any picture or memory that seems insignificant or random. God knows what is important— and also knows the best order in which to proceed in the process of healing.
Most often, the issues that seem small to us have tremendous significance in our lives. God always knows best. Trust Him to bring to mind whatever He feels is most important to heal first.
It may help to think of yourself as a child who needs help. So go to your heavenly Father with childlike faith, simply trusting that the first person or situation that comes to mind is truly from an all-knowing, all-loving God, who is powerful enough to communicate with you clearly and directly.
2. FEEL Next, we get in touch with the feelings that are taking place in our gut. “What do I feel when I think of or imagine this person or situation that just came to mind?” Every thought has a corresponding emotion.
All thoughts are feeling-thoughts or emo-cognitions. (forgiveness, to be complete, must be done on an emotional level, not the thinking level.)
Pay attention to the negative emotions you feel in your belly area. Don’t think at this point, but simply feel what is taking place in your gut.
When you think of that person or situation that God brings to mind, what is going on inside your belly?
We don’t even have to name the emotion we are currently experiencing. It may be very subtle or extremely strong, from a vague, nameless discomfort to a more obvious rage or sorrow. We only have to feel the negative emotion momentarily.
God does not require us to feel the full extent of our emotions in order to receive healing. There is no reason for us to dwell on the feeling or plumb its depths. Just experiencing “the tip of the iceberg” of an enormous feeling is sufficient— no more.
What if feeling a particularly painful emotion seems more than you can handle at the moment? Just remind yourself that feeling a moment of discomfort is a small price to pay for a lifetime of peace and freedom in that area.
Give in and allow the feelings to arise. Christ can work with whatever area of brokenness you offer Him, no matter how small, confused, painful, or undefined. All you need is a mustard seed of faith. As we think of the person or situation God brings to mind, what does it feel like inside of us?
That emotion has been in us all along, even if it was hidden. But it has been lurking beneath our conscious awareness. Unresolved emotions are stored in the brain’s long-term memory, in the cellular memories of the body, and the emotional memory of the heart but God will bring to the surface what He wants to heal, and He’ll do it in the best order possible. He has our best interests at heart.
3. FORGIVE It is important to always start with the emotion that we’re feeling. While we continue to feel that particular emotion, drop down to focus on our spirit and yield our will to God, opening the door of our heart to the presence of God.
Yield to Christ within, and allow a river of forgiveness to flow toward the person who provoked the negative emotion (or we receive forgiveness for ourselves).
Forgiveness is complete when the negative emotion changes to perfect peace. Christ Himself will bring healing to the wound in our heart— and to our cellular memories and neural pathways— with His very presence, giving us peace that transcends understanding.
Forgiveness flowing from our innermost being actually feels like a gentle river of love rushing from inside our belly out toward the person needing forgiveness or the situation the Lord wants to heal. Let His river flow until the pain, fear, or anger changes to peace.
Then and only then has that unforgiveness been cleansed by Christ Himself. In fact, that’s the sign of forgiveness: pain has changed to His peace. The most important question is whether or not we feel peace inside when we think of the person or situation again. We never have to guess if we did it right if we focus on the peace.
We can just close our eyes, drop down focusing on our spirit, picture the exact situation or person again, and we should now feel peace— a permanent and lasting peace. If we can see that person who offended us or return to the memory and feel peace instead of pain or bitterness, then forgiveness is complete.
If, on the other hand, we picture the person or situation and feel even a twinge of negative emotion, then we need to return to the process of dropping down, yielding our will, and releasing Christ the forgiver once again. It’s imperative we keep releasing love until the emotion turns to peace.
Christ the forgiver is the One who does the forgiving. There is nothing for us to do but yield to Him and let His river of love flow through us. It should only take seconds.
It is extremely important that we pray through only one situation at a time, and pray through each emotion associated with that memory, releasing Christ the forgiver until we feel His peace displace the negative emotion. We must be patient with whatever God presents to us, in whatever order, no matter how “random” it seems. Sequence is important, so we always go in God’s order, according to His leading.
He is aware of the larger structures of our soul and understands how to dismantle strongholds, wound by wound, in the most effective sequence.
Forgive in Three Directions. Often we have to forgive in more than one direction. Forgiveness may be directed toward another person or situation, but it can also be directed toward God or ourselves.
Why? Perhaps we’ve held onto regrets from the past or held judgments against others. We need to let Christ cleanse us of those regrets and accusations. When we hold onto unforgiveness; it is a sin.
Maybe we feel guilt and shame about things we’ve done or haven’t done, sins of omission or commission. We simply open our heart, yield our will, and let Christ the forgiver flow toward us, cleansing us of sin.
We need to forgive ourselves for judging ourselves too harshly. People are frequently much harder on themselves than on other people.
But sometimes we need to forgive God— not that He has done anything wrong, but we blame Him for things done to us. Even though He has never done anything wrong or sinned in any way, people often get mad at Him anyway. He’s accused of withholding blessings from us, or maybe we’ve grown bitter and disappointed by hopes that were deferred.
Once again, we open our heart and yield our will to Christ. We allow forgiveness to flow out, toward God Himself. We also receive forgiveness for holding a grudge against the Lord. Forgiving God gets our heart right toward Him. At other times we need to forgive others for what has been done to us. A person who was abused, for example, might be angry with the perpetrator, blame themselves for not stopping it somehow, and feel hurt by God because it was allowed to happen.
That person can open their heart, yield their will, and let the forgiveness of Christ flow in all three directions— first to the perpetrator, then to themselves, and then to God. If in doubt, we should forgive in all three directions because we can’t forgive too much or love too much.
Once again, just follow these easy steps to experience supernatural forgiveness:
FirstFirst person or situation. What is the first person or situation God brings to mind in an image or memory? "Feel" the feeling. What is the emotion you feel in your gut?
ForgiveForgive. Yield your will and let Christ the forgiver flow out toward the person or situation, yourself, or to God.
Fact. After forgiving and getting peace, if there is a lie, renounce it out loud. Next, ask the Lord for the truth (scriptural fact) and receive it.
Fill. Forgive first, then release the demands on people to give you what you needed. Then receive filling from Christ within.
Taken from the Book “Live Free: Discover the Keys to Living in God's Presence 24/7” by Clark, Dennis; Clark, Jen (2013-12-17