Are you serious about desiring a mate? The first item on your list should be to pray and ask the Lord to send that special someone across your path.
Church is usually the perfect place to find a Christian mate, but don’t discount other places or ways for this to happen. After all, not every good prospect attends YOUR church!
For instance, there is an internet site that reviews Christian dating services: http://www.christiandatingservice.com/
Interestingly enough, they do not recommend some of the more popular dating services such as eHarmony.
Small-groups in your church are one good way to find eligible men or women! Do join one! Of course, do not fail to participate in the discussions at a Bible study. Men like a woman who speaks out, but watch out! The ones who want to argue or talk non-stop will cause them to lose interest quickly!
Men also do not like grouchy, complaining women, so put on a joyful face and watch your words. Public grumbling is so unbecoming!
Women want a man who will open up and talk to them, and at least tell them they look nice, and are pretty or beautiful. If he can cook, that helps too. LOL!
What about qualities? I had a friend who made a list of the traits she wanted in a husband. Each night she would pray as she went over her list, and she would tell the Lord that she believed He was bringing this type of person into her life. As I recall, most of the qualities were there when she did find a good husband.
I do not believe she settled for less. The simple fact is that no one is completely perfect and her expectations were very high. Of course, now she knows that there are always compromises in marriage - especially if one desires peace in the household. Treating each other with kindness and respect is vital to any relationship. Not always wanting the “last word,” can save a marriage!
Some friends of mine have found they are happy to remain single; and there are many reasons for this, too.
The Bible tells us above all, to learn to be content! Do not be afraid to enjoy life, in whatever station in which you find yourself.
Proverbs 18:22 Who ever finds a wife (or husband) finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the LORD.