Zephaniah 3:17 reminds us that God is musical and He rejoices and sings over you. - -
The LORD your God in the midst of you is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over you with joy; he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.
Monday, August 26, 2013
Butting Heads (2010 repost)
It must be a normal happening for some
mother-in laws and daughter-in-laws to butt heads from time to time.
In our case, my sweet
mother-in-law and I got along quite well, because she always did everything I
told her to do!
I remember one time, my young
4 year old brother in-law who was just a tad older than my own children, spit
out the F word, at my mother-in-law.I
grabbed him up, turned him over my knee and gave him three swats quick as your
eye can blink.
His mom, said, “He doesn’t
know what he is saying, and he is just a baby.”I told her, he knew enough that it was disrespectful, and as I looked
him in the eye, I told him to never speak to “Bea” like that again.All of her children called her “Bea”, and I
think it was because she thought she was too young to be called mom.Anyway, that is another story.
Then my children grew up, got
married, and I found that I was now the Mother-in-law.
I have always been good at
telling people what to do and taking charge, and I really do not plan to change,
but things were different with my new daughter-in-law.She had been raised in a rather large family,
with brothers to tease her, and hurt her feelings.
Some of the things I said,
were not taken lightly, and were misinterpreted.In her way of thinking, she was certain that
I did not like her; and that I believed she was not doing a good job of raising
my grandchildren.Those were her
thoughts, not mine, although I did have some good suggestions.
As it was inevitable, one day
without realizing it at the time, I spoke in haste, and hurt her feelings
deeply.The next several trips to our place, she
found an excuse to stay home, and only the boys and our son visited.
Sometimes, I am dense,
because I tend to give others the benefit of the doubt, but I finally realized
that I had offended her, and she was not about to forgive me.Thinking back, I could even point to the
event that must have triggered the whole thing.
Finally in desperation, I
knew I must at least take action on my part to bring about reconciliation.If she did not respond, that would be “Her
problem and not mine.”
So, one day, I called her
cell phone, and left a message for her to return the call.Shortly she did, and I proceeded to remind
her of the event. I told her I realized that I had hurt her feelings, and I
asked her to please forgive me.
her I missed her when she did not visit, and I wanted her to understand that
she was always welcome at our home.
“Yes, I forgive you,” she
said, and that was enough for me.
recognize that she is the mother and I am the Mother-in-law, and there is no
reason for us to butt heads.